On fragility
The most destructive people you know are likely the most fragile
The most destructive people you know are likely the most fragile.
They don’t always present as fragile. Brawny, puffed-up, costumed, they intimidate and terrorize and make it clear you will be abused if you challenge them.
These people are insubstantial and they know it. Thin-skinned, they stand for nothing but their own compulsion to dominate. Reactionary, they crush others so they don’t have to face their own breakability. Brittle, they grasp onto weaponry so as to cosplay as warriors. Unaccountable, they gaslight others. Unselfconscious, they scapegoat others. Flimsy, they submit to a presumed alpha in order to protect themselves against their own puniness.
And don’t you dare reject them or you will face violence, their unprocessed insecurities wrathfully oozing-out.
You know what’s strong? Facing your fears. Owning your insecurities. Delighting in women. Asking questions and changing your mind based on new evidence. Being grateful. Apologizing, then changing your behavior. Having vulnerable conversations. Taking accountability for yourself. Telling the truth. Embracing nuance. Forgiving. Pausing before responding. Holding others accountable. Listening to kids. Basing your opinions in fact. Believing in right and wrong.
And doing the right thing.
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